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Hello
This
site is dedicated to my sister-in-law.
Her name is Brenda. She passed away
on Sunday, March 24th at 8 A.M. because
she had cancer. She was in my life
from the time I was 11 till now (I
am 30), which is almost 20 years.
She lost her husband (my older brother)
to a brain tumor in 1994. We were
all devastated then and now here we
are again almost 8 years later. I
made this site to make me feel better.
Not for Brenda...she already
knew all of this. We loved each
other very much and made no bones
about talking about it. She
knew how much I admired her and looked
up to her. I made sure she knew
all of the things I am saying now.
This page is just to share her
with you...someone who may have been
lucky enough to have met her...or
maybe your a complete stranger....either
way her memory goes on. She
spoke in a low soft voice and had
beautiful brown curly hair, with the
most expressive big brown eyes I have
ever seen. She had a good laugh that
everyone got to hear often and she
had a wonderful sense of humor. She
was and is a beautiful woman, a strong
Christian and the best big sister
in the whole world. We talked usually
2-3 times a week, unless something
was wrong and then I knew to keep
bugging her till she told me what
was going on. She hid how bad her
cancer was, so we would not treat
her differently. That took so much
courage for her to know all she did
and not to share it with anyone except
her best friend and her Aunt. I respect
her for it and I am upset with her
for doing it, she had no need to walk
down that road alone. Brenda came
into my life when I was a little girl
who was trying her best to be a tomboy.
She spent the rest of her life trying
to teach me how to be a lady (she
almost got it done). Ok, not really,
lol...she did, however, teach me some
tact and diplomacy, sort of anyway....as
long as I think before I speak (which
happens way to seldomly). She would
look at me after I had done something
not so polite with a beautiful smile
and say, "Katherine, I see it is time
for another T&D (tact and diplomacy)
lesson". Poor Brenda, I was rebellious
for a lot of those lessons. She on
the other hand was always a perfect
lady (well almost always). She was
always there to lend a hand to anyone
in need and she was also ready to
jump in and fight for the people she
loved. She wanted children but that
never happened. She would have been
the best mom in the world, she was
patient, loving and fun. Anytime she
kept my daughter over night my daughter
would come home with all these wonderful
little treasures that they had made
together. I told her once that She
did not have to go to all that trouble
and she told me if I wanted my kid
to be bored I would have to take her
to a different aunts house because
she would continue to be the fun aunt.
She was always making things like
clothes, costumes, hats, soap, stained
glass, tables w/stained glass tops,
pottery and the list goes on. She
was so talented and creative in so
many ways. No matter what kind of
situation I found myself in I could
call her and say...what do I wear
to this or how would you handle this...and
she always had an answer for me. Sometimes,
it was only a mischievous smile and
a laugh that said you are on your
own, cause I have NEVER found myself
in that position. lol. I have no regrets
because even though my brother died
we kept in touch because we were a
family even if he was not here anymore.
She always knew that I loved her and
I know she loved me. I wish for my
own selfishness that she could have
been here a lot longer, I rejoice
that now she is in heaven with God
and her husband. She was so very beautiful
inside and out and I miss her very
much. People who met her one time
grieved as though she were a family
member to them. Everyone said she
was a special person and a neat lady.
She got so many beautiful flowers
after she died and I got to see all
the people whose lives she touched.
Brenda was so special too, she would
pray for anyone, anytime about anything.
As she lay dying in the hospital she
was praying for the rest of the people
in the hospital. She was a very special
person and I wanted to share a little
bit of her with you. I know she sounds
awesome and unbelievable, but I'm
not lying she was all of these things
and more...
July
4th 2002
Well
I just wanted to add that I miss you
Brenda. I miss your bright smile
and your beautiful laugh. I
wish things could have been different...but
you are with God now. I know
you are in a good place and I know
your happy. I still reach to
call you when something exciting happens
or when I just need to rant. Jessica
still cries for you and truthfully
so do I. I can't wait till I'm
with you again.
I love you...
This graphic was sent to me
from this site. Thank
you for letting me use it SueCat.
  
 
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